#26 Support and Be Supported

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When life throws your a curve ball, make sure that you:

• Surround yourself with supportive people.
• Reach out to like minded people.
• Learn what you want to know about your circumstances - knowledge can take away the feeling of helplessness.
• Support others like others have supported you (helping others takes us out of our heads too).

A life altering event for me was the loss of a very much wanted baby. The joy we felt upon learning of my pregnancy was out of this world, then when I nearly lost my life and had to have emergency surgery to remove my baby my world changed forever. Nothing could have ever prepared me for the sudden kick of grief that hit me and pulled me down.

What got me though this sad milestone in my life (outside of those close to me) was a group I found online, a group of women who experienced similar pregnancy losses.  Such an intimate experience can sometimes only be understood by those who have or are undergoing the same. That group was a lifeline to me.  As I healed I was able to help new members who had recent losses;  I was able to support them with knowledge of what to expect next, ways of coping, messages of hope, and simply by being there.

I still participate in that group today, as a support person, and am always very attuned to the topic of pregnancy loss.  In fact, what sparked today's posting was an ad I  came across for a proposed garden called the Little Spirits Garden, where families can remember and honour their lost little ones.  I also learned of a group called Empty Arms, a group that I don't believe existed when I found my online support.

Remember, no matter what curve balls life is throwing you, no matter what you are going through, take care of yourself and be sure to give back and support others too.


To help Grieving Families who have lost an unborn child or newly born little one, please take a look at the Face Book Page for the Little Spirits Garden  http://www.facebook.com/LittleSpiritsGarden  and Please Share .  Even if your life has not been touched by such a loss, chances are someone you know has experienced such a loss, even if you don't know it.



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